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Becoming “Life-Proof”

Recently I saw an advertisement in a magazine for makeup and the slogan was, “It’s Life-Proof.” In other words, whatever life throws at you, it won’t mess up your makeup.  After seeing the ad, it occurred to me that slogan pretty much sums up how we are conditioned practically from birth. We think we are supposed to strive to be life-proof; sort of braced for whatever comes our way, resisting the bad, welcoming the good – preparing for the worst, hoping for the best.

Except that way of living, the way we have been conditioned to live, is based on a misunderstanding. Because we lacked an understanding of how life actually works, we act like there’s a life “out there” happening to us vs. life is happening through us.

We are not separate from life. We are life.

Notice that in every experience of life, you are there. Have you ever had an experience of life and not been there? It cannot happen.  You are required for life to be experienced.

We expend so much energy attempting to control life; resisting how life shows up and shoulding our way through each day… That shouldn’t have happened, he shouldn’t be that way, she shouldn’t act like that, I should be more blah, blah blah.  Every should you think or speak is evidence for how much resistance you have to life.

When you understand how life really works, you can be in life in a whole new way; free to act or not; to create, respond, to be in life– experiencing the wonder of it all. Unafraid.  A wave is not afraid of the ocean; it’s not afraid of anything in it.  You are of life – there is nothing to resist or fear.

A long time ago the Earth was flat because people were conditioned from birth that it was that way. The discovery that the Earth was in fact round impacted how life was lived. For many, many years we have lived like stuff happens in life that causes us to feel and think, (i.e. react) and the best we can do is to find ways to cope. Traffic jam leads to frustration; Looming deadline leads to stress, Pay raise or award equals happy.  We live this way because we have been conditioned from birth that life is outside in, i.e., life happens, we respond.

Except our conditioning is wrong.

Life is actually inside out.  Every experience we have is 100% a result of our thinking in the moment and mistaking our thoughts for reality.  When people first hear this they often say, “Oh, so I need to think more positively?” NO!!

Instead, we need to understand the nature of thought. It’s transient, ever-changing and almost, if not always, irrelevant.  You are not your thoughts and your thoughts are not reality. Your thoughts are like the goggles you see life through. Believing your thoughts distorts life. When you realize how irrelevant and counterproductive the majority of your thoughts are it’s like taking your goggles off and seeing life clearly for the first time.

You are life and you have thoughts. Nothing to do about that. Thoughts will come and go on their own. There is no need to become or aspire to be “Life-proof,” because life is neutral; it has no inherent meaning. Life just is.

Give yourself some time to ponder this. Nothing to believe or disbelieve. Test it in your own experience. It’s like gravity – it’s just true – whether you believe it or not.  When you see this for yourself, it naturally changes how you live. You’ll experience more ease, freedom, clarity and joy effortlessly regardless of the circumstances you are in.

If any of this is intriguing to you or you’d like to dive deeper into this conversation to see how it might help you, please contact me to schedule a complimentary coaching session.

Life Without “In Order To”

Recently I woke up to a flurry of texts where several of my family members were communicating about a family situation. There was venting, opinions and of course, misunderstanding.

One of the challenges of communicating in general but especially with texting is how easily things can be misinterpreted. As I was trying to formulate my response and struggling to come up with the “right” phrasing to text back I was getting really flustered. I decided to slow down. I asked myself, “What would I say if I wasn’t worried about how it was received?”

Immediately, I relaxed. An idea came into my mind of what to say and I composed my response coming from love. Then I had an insight… in that moment I could see for myself how much my communications and actions were due to an “in order to.”

In order to…

  • Please someone
  • Get my way
  • Not upset or anger someone
  • Look good or be the hero
  • Get approval

I could go on and on. It seems to me this is what complicates communication, relationships and ultimately life. We don’t realize we are formulating our communication or taking an action in order toget some result or outcome that is out of our control. The fact is we have zerocontrol over another’s’ response or actions.

Obviously, this is not license to be a jerk without regard for someone’s feelings however it is an opportunity to be authentic, come from a place of love and compassion (our natural state) and express ourselves. From this place of love and compassion there is no expectations, therefore no disappointment in the outcome.

It’s so simple it is easy to overlook or dismiss. Experiment with this for yourself. Notice when you are communicating or doing something if you have a hidden “in order to.” Ask yourself, “If I was coming from love and compassion, how might I say or do this differently? Would I even do it at all?”  It seems to me when we come from love without an expectation of a particular response, i.e. without trying to control the outcome, there is no guilt, burden or stress.

Imagine what would be possible without “In order to” in your relationship, in your family, in your business or job, in your life.  Imagine the freedom. Imagine how much simpler and easier life would be.

If any of this is intriguing to you or you’d like to dive deeper into this conversation to see how it might help you please contact me to schedule a time to talk.

In the Zone

We’ve all heard the phrase, “In the Zone,” and most of us have experienced it at some point both on and off the field. When it happens, for the most part we think of it as a happy accident or lucky; something you wish for but really don’t know how to make happen.

What if you had the ability to be “in the Zone” (or “flow” as it’s also known) whenever you wanted? How do you think that would affect your performance or your life?

One of the results of being in the Zone is outstanding performance. People describe the experience by saying things such as “Everything slowed way down, and I was able to play at the top of my game.”

When you are in the Zone your thinking settles down; it’s amazingly peaceful because your inner chatter quiets. In the Zone you intuitively know that the inner commentary is irrelevant and if you pay attention to it, it will be detrimental to your performance.

In the Zone there is only now; the past and future do not exist. There is clarity and your focus is on being responsive to the moment. Check in with your own experience of being in the Zone and see if it matches what I’m saying.

Imagine if that were possible the majority of the time.  It’s not a pipe dream. It really is possible to access the Zone at will when you understand how the mind works and what the source of being in the Zone is. There is an innocent misunderstanding at the heart of our inability to live from this place more of the time.  The Zone is not some place to get to. It is our natural state. Let that sink in. If it wasn’t for our thoughts, more accurately said, if it wasn’t for believing our thoughts, for adding significance and importance to our thoughts, we would be in the Zone all the time.

When you understand the true nature of thought this all makes sense. Thoughts are transient, ever changing, merely moving through your consciousness like clouds in the sky on a windy day. Thought is NOT reality; thoughts are not a fixed state. We are the ones who misunderstand and treat our thoughts as things. We have been conditioned to pay attention to our thoughts and try to change or control them. All of this goes against how the mind actually works.

Don’t take my word for it. Check this out in your own experience. Have you ever noticed that in one moment you can be thinking of something and in the next moment you’ve forgotten what you were thinking? Or you can be really upset with someone then find out they are ill or had a tragedy in their life and suddenly your upset thinking disappears. These are only a couple of examples. If you look for yourself in your own experience you will see many more instances.

Now, relate this to being in the Zone where, as stated above, you intuitively know that the inner commentary is irrelevant and if you pay attention to it will be detrimental to your performance. How does knowing your thoughts are transient support you in accessing the Zone? Consider when you truly know the nature of thought, you don’t take it so seriously; you don’t worry or concern yourself with your thinking as much and it allows you to pay attention to what is ACTUALLY happening in the moment, right in front of you. You become responsive in real time to life which increases your effectiveness and aliveness exponentially.

If any of this is intriguing to you or you’d like to dive deeper into this conversation to see how it might help you perform better, please contact me to schedule a time to talk.

The Success Paradox

There is a pervasive belief in business that success and stress go hand in hand; that stress is just part of the game of business when you are playing to win.  The bad news is that stress has an extremely detrimental effect on performance.

The fact is people perform at their best when they are in a relaxed state of mind. Great performers will tell you this. “The Zone” is a well-known phenomenon in the world of sports. It’s an experience of being in “flow” where you are so present life occurs differently. There is no feeling of pressure or stress in this state.

New thoughts and ideas come to mind in a relaxed state of mind.  Many people talk about being in the shower or going for a walk or on vacation and having a “eureka” moment where a new solution or idea came to mind, seemingly out of nowhere.

People are better able to listen and communicate when they are in a relaxed state of mind.  I am sure you have had the experience of attempting to speak with someone who is stressed and feeling like they are not listening at all.

You may be thinking, how can I have a relaxed state of mind with so much going on?  An innocent misunderstanding lies at the heart of this pervasive belief that stress and success are linked. The misunderstanding is that outside events or circumstances cause our stress or other experiences (sadness, anger, happiness, etc.).

In truth, at any moment we are only able to experience our thinking. In other words we feel our thinking we are not feeling what’s happening (events and circumstances).

Don’t take my word for it. Think about the last time you were in a relaxed state of mind. How did the world seem to you?  In a relaxed state of mind, life looks like it’s filled with opportunities. Conversely, when you are in a stressed state of mind, life looks like one problem after another.

If you are wondering how to achieve a relaxed state of mind I’ve got great news for you. A relaxed state of mind is our natural state. What creates stress, worry, etc. is thought. But this isn’t about learning to think something different, i.e. positive thinking. Not at all.  That will only make matters worse.

Thought in and of itself is not the problem. The problem is that we mistake thought for reality. We get caught up in the thoughts and don’t realize that they become the lens that we view life through. Thoughts are transient energy that will change from moment to moment if we don’t engage with them. In other words, if we don’t give them any weight or significance they disappear.

In the current paradigm, the best we can hope for is to learn ways to cope with or manage stress. What if instead, stress was completely optional? When you truly understand how the mind works and the nature of human being you are able to navigate through any circumstance with ease, without stress or any other negative emotion holding you back.

Stress or a worried state of mind comes from believing your thoughts and misattributing the cause of your feelings to outside circumstances. When you have no distinction between thoughts and reality it leads to confusion that you then experience as stress, anger, worry, etc. When you don’t see your relationship to your thoughts as the source of your upset it looks like the outside world is causing your feelings.

Once you see thought for what it is, transient energy passing through your brain and understand that nothing outside of you can make you feel anything, it returns you to your natural state of peace and ease. You don’t have to worry about how you are feeling or what you are thinking because you know it will pass.

It’s like clouds in the sky. When clouds cover the sun you don’t panic because you know the clouds will pass and you will see the sun again. You know the sun never left. It was always there. That’s how your natural state is. It is always peaceful and at ease. When we believe a thought and confuse it with reality our natural state gets covered for a time. Don’t worry… it will pass.

Success Without Stress?

What if stress, pressure and overwhelm are not required for a successful life?

In our society we have come to believe that stress, pressure, overwhelm, etc. come with life, especially if you want to be successful.  Virtually every waking moment of life we are in survival mode, (also known as “Flight or Fight” mode), rushing, worrying, stressed, trying to keep everyone happy or avoiding disappointing anyone in hopes that someday we’ll get our shit together and it will be better.

In the meantime, days, weeks, months even years go by without any relief because someday never comes. You look around and see everyone seems to be in the same situation so it becomes normalized and accepted as just the way it is. We look for strategies to cope with stress, pressure and overwhelm as if they are reality.

Life doesn’t have to be this way. In fact it is possible to eliminate stress, pressure, frustration, overwhelm, etc. as a problem.  When you understand that stress, pressure, overwhelm and similar emotions are created in our imagination, or better said are the result of our thinking rather than a RESULT of events or situations.

Think about it, you can’t point to stress as a “thing” in the world.  It’s a concept not a thing. Any event you believe to be the cause of your stress can be experienced a different way.  For example, a job promotion may be experienced as exciting or stressful. Same event; different experiences. What’s the common denominator? Thinking! We feel/experience our thinking 100% of the time. 

This is extremely good news because thinking changes moment to moment like a cloud on a windy day and you don’t have to do anything. Trying to think positively is not required; trying to alter your experience or feeling is not required.  All that’s needed is an understanding that thoughts are NOT reality. Thoughts are merely energy passing through your brain and when left alone they will pass through and new thoughts will arise.

Our natural state is well-being – peace, joy and freedom. The “you” that came before thinking is within you.  You were born with it – innate well-being.  When you don’t get caught up in believing your thinking and you remember that thoughts are not reality – you have instant access to peace, joy and freedom.

That beats stress, pressure and overwhelm any day.

Do you ever feel like an imposter?

If so, you are not alone. Lots and lots of people have what’s known as The Imposter Syndrome; a fear that you are not as good as other people think you are.

There was a time when I was terrified that the rug would get pulled out from under me and I would be exposed as a fraud.  I had such low self esteem I couldn’t even accept a compliment without saying something derogatory about myself.  Despite my outward success my internal conversation (my story) was that I wasn’t good enough and no matter how many achievements I had, it was never enough.

Thankfully, with some help I discovered that my beliefs weren’t real and I could choose a different story. Every day I work with clients who are dealing with the same fears and together we are able to deconstruct the Imposter Syndrome and invent a new reality free from fear and anxiety.

Recently I was interviewed by Sharon Frame, Founder of LeadHERship and Lead From Love, about the Imposter Syndrome. We discussed some tips and strategies for dealing with it effectively. Here is the video of our conversation.

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A Framework for Providing and Inspiring Leadership

What if Leadership is not a configuration of the “right” qualities but instead a perspective that one views the world through? There are numerous interpretations of what makes a good leader. In fact, there are just as many interpretations of the definition of good leadership. Don’t believe me? Just Google either term and see how many results you get.

Consider that what’s crucial about leadership is how it “shows up” in reality. In other words, where the rubber meets the road, so to speak. Leadership as a concept or description of qualities is not all that valuable. However, Leadership “on the court,” in the moment it’s needed is what counts.

This article will outline a framework for leadership that gives one access to providing and inspiring leadership in the moment it is needed. The four elements that make up this framework are Integrity, 100% Responsibility, Focusing on What Works and Creating the Future.

 Integrity

 “Without integrity, nothing works.” ~ Werner Erhard

Integrity is a term that most people equate with honesty and morality and it is seen as a “fixed” state, i.e., either you have integrity or you don’t. What if instead integrity had more to do with honoring your word? Said another way, to have integrity means that you “walk your talk,” i.e., your words and your deeds (actions) match.

 Effective leaders are those who do what they say by when they said it would be done and if they fail to do so, they acknowledge the broken promise and deal with the impact of the failure on others as well as re-promise when appropriate. Effective leaders do not take their words for granted. They recognize that if they dishonor their word they will lose the respect of others as well as their self-respect.

 Consider each time you break a promise or act inconsistent with who you say you are, you are diminished in your own eyes and in the eyes of others unless you acknowledge the break in integrity and deal with the impact of your broken promise.

 100% Responsibility

“Take your life into your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: No one to Blame.” ~ Erica Jong

The concept of cause and effect is an illusion. There is always more to the story than we know. If a boulder rolls down a hill and crashes into a fence, one could say the boulder caused the broken fence. But what made the boulder roll? If someone pushed it, are they the cause of the broken fence? But what if someone pushed them into the boulder? There is always something that came before.

 Effective leaders do not look for who is to blame. They own their results, all of them, the good, the bad and the ugly. Effective leaders have the perspective that they are 100% responsible for everything in their lives, not because it is true but because it enables them to look for ways to alter their actions to create different results.

 For example, if you ask an employee or colleague to perform a task and he or she agrees to do it, then you explain how you want it done and he or she does it incorrectly one option is to blame him or her for not listening or being stubborn or any of a number of reasons. Another option if you are being 100% responsible is to ask yourself, “What was missing from my explanation that led to that result?”

 Being 100% responsible keeps you in the game of continuing to learn and grow and empowering yourself to positively impact the results.

 Focusing on What Works

“We have reached the end of problem solving as a mode of inquiry capable of inspiring, mobilizing and sustaining human system change.” ~ Dr. David Cooperrider

At any given moment you have a choice of what to focus on: what’s working or what’s not working.  Most people spend the vast majority of time and energy focusing on what doesn’t work and trying to fix it.  Now this might elicit the response, “Of course I do that’s how to improve”.

Focusing on what doesn’t work actually slows down growth and development.  It can keep you stuck and prevent you from moving forward.  The bottom line is that the way we have been trained to think about change has been wrong.

It is not that you should ignore what doesn’t work but be honest, how long have you been working on it?  For most of us it has been years of trying to improve the same thing only to see incremental progress.

Focusing on what works is another way to view life.  Think about it, if you want to be rich, you would not study poor people.  If you want to be thin, you would not study overweight people.  Success is not found by studying failure and doing the opposite.  Success has a texture and depth all its own.

Effective leaders know that discovering what works and doing more of it leads to more success. Focusing on what works energizes and enlivens people unleashing their natural creativity and enthusiasm.

Creating the Future

 “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

Effective leadership is predicated on the notion that the future is ours to create. In fact, one could say that a leader is someone who makes an unpredictable future come true. Great leaders understand that the future only exists in language. In other words, there is no future in reality because we are always in the present moment.

A leader creates the future they want by declaring how it is going to go then taking actions consistent with their declaration. They don’t look at the present situation and try to fix it. Instead they ask, “Given this situation, what do I want to create?”

 Leaders realize that there are no barriers to what they want only design problems to figure out and new ways of thinking to invent. The greatest of leaders are willing to stand for something that seems impossible and trust that those around them will rise to the level needed to make it become a reality.

President John F. Kennedy did just that with the space program. He declared the United States would put a man on the moon within the decade. He made the declaration well before the technology was invented to make it happen. His declaration caused the scientists to think differently and figure out how to resolve many problems that never existed before. Landing a man on the moon was accomplished in eight years.

Conclusion

Each of these elements on their own will positively impact your results and your effectiveness as a leader however when these four elements are taken together you will have a breakthrough in your ability to inspire and provide leadership leading to unprecedented results that exceed your expectations.

Going for what you want is disruptive

I know this may sound like something everyone knows. However, in my experience people do not realize that their life is currently set up or designed for the results they have. If you want a different result, YOU MUST CHANGE the way your life is currently structured. You can’t keep doing the same thing over and over and expect a different result. That’s the definition of insanity.

Here is an example; one of my closest friends was very overweight for her entire life. I am not talking slightly overweight; she was well over 100 pounds over weight. She tried lots or things to lose weight but nothing ever stuck until one day at age 45 she was rushed to the hospital with a life threatening issue and she decided to handle her weight problem once and for all.

How you ask? She turned her life upside down. She became an avid bike rider, she completely overhauled her eating and she gave up her sedentary lifestyle. She has organized her life around living healthy. She not only lost all the excess weight but she has kept it off for many years. She REALLY wanted the results in her life to change. She wasn’t being mamby-pamby about it.

It took completely disrupting the way her life was structured to cause the results to change. Most people are not willing to do that for their goals. They try to fit things in without investigating how the current structure is perpetuating the problem. They take tentative actions that quickly fall by the wayside because their life is not designed for the outcome they say they want.

If you are not willing to disrupt your life, chances are you won’t get the new results you are looking for or be able to sustain them.

How do you discover what results your life is structured for? One easy way is to look at your calendar. What are you spending your time on? Is it the “old outcome” or the “new goal”. If you have a goal to increase your revenue, for example, look at your calendar or your actions and see how much time are you actually spending on revenue producing activity.

There is no mystery to results. What you spend time and energy on grows. Most of the time we are blind to the things that get in the way because most of the time it is our thinking that causes the problem. Your thinking is the first thing that needs to get disrupted in order to achieve new results.

If you want to explore your thinking, uncover the barriers to achieving your next level of success and experience a powerful coaching session, contact me today.

Do you have Business Card Build-Up Syndrome?

Do you have business card build up syndrome? A stack of business cards piled on your desk that you have collected at various networking events and now have no idea what to do with them.  Should you call, add them to your list, send them an email??? What’s the “right” thing to do?

A big cause of the business card build up syndrome is making one or all of the three biggest networking mistakes:

1.  Failure to plan

Most business people attend events to be seen or to make contacts but don’t make a plan of what they want to achieve at the networking event. As a result people have haphazard conversations that don’t lead anywhere.  By taking time prior to the event to establish a plan of action you will have focused, intentional conversations that lead to appointments with people after the event is over.

2.  Incorrectly answering the question, “What do you do?”

The most common networking mistake is to answer the question, “What do you do?” with your title or industry, e.g., Financial Planner, IT Consultant, Banker, Lawyer, etc.  The moment you state your title (unless your title is unique like Zoo Keeper or Astronaut) you have lost the listening of the person you are speaking to. They already know ten people who do what you do. Now, instead of listening, they are politely nodding and smiling wondering how to move to the next person.

Instead of using your title to answer the question say something about what you actually do and for whom. “I help people to achieve audacious goals by giving them access to a whole new level of power and performance,” is what I say when people ask me what I do.

3.  Talk too much

Listening is the most important networking skill there is. Not just any kind of listening; Conscious Listening is what’s needed. You have to listen to serve. Most people listen to reply or to have the right answer rather than to understand and learn.  Mastering your ability to listen to serve or listen for what’s needed will significantly increase the number of follow up appointments you obtain. The people you meet will be eagerly awaiting your call because you will have a really good reason to call them.

To learn how to avoid these mistakes PLUS find out a proven strategy for getting business or referrals from your follow up appointment, join me for my workshop on March 20 at the Business in the Raw: Your Success Uncovered event.

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