In my experience, the reason people feel dissatisfied or unsuccessful is that they are looking in the wrong place for those experiences. Because we have been conditioned to believe that outside circumstances or events are the source of our feelings, we spend our energy seeking the “right” circumstances, so we have a good feeling and avoiding the “wrong” circumstances, so we don’t have bad feelings.
In reality, it works the other way around. Our feelings (experiences) are thought created 100% of the time – no exceptions. You don’t have to believe me on this. Check it out for yourself in your own life. The easiest way is if you have children or a significant other. In one minute, you are over-the-moon in love and in the next, wondering how you got stuck with them. Trust me… they didn’t change in that short amount of time. Your state of mind – the thought created lens you are seeing life through in any given moment – shifted.
Satisfaction (or any experience for that matter) is not a fixed state. It fluctuates with the coming and goings of thought (opinions, judgments, assessments, etc.). If you are like most people (including me) even if you do what you said in the time frame agreed to, your mind jumps to doubting and assessing pretty fast, i.e., was it good enough, did I make a mistake, will they like it. Suddenly the feelings of insecurity or worry undermine the experience of satisfaction.
There is another way. Understanding the truth of how the human experience works allows us to live in reality – in what’s actually happening – rather than in our distorted, self-important imagination where we are the center of the universe.
When we see through our thoughts, we can rest in who we really are – the infinite potential of the universe. From this place we are already satisfied, at peace without an experience of lack. From here, there’s only creating for the sake of creating, not in pursuit of any particular feeling. In this space there is a knowing that there will be an array of feelings that will come and go, like clouds on a windy day but those feelings are irrelevant to the process of creating.
